Romans 12:19 Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay says the Lord."
I think this week I have started to reflect back on my old ways of thinking and my actions. I look at a lot of things that I said or did were out of anger. I had a right to be angry, but the way I dealt with the anger was so wrong. Now I am dealing with the guilt and regret of it. I dealt with the anger my own way. I sought avenues for my anger that I should have never traveled. I took things into my own hands and it blew up in my face. When it blew up the ripple effect spread to all of those around me.
1 Corinthians 13:4 - 8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails...
12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Love for God is the key of forgiveness. My wife loves God with all of her heart and therefore she loves me the same. She showed every description of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4 - 8. With that kind of love she was able to forgive me for the MANY ways that I messed up (the reason for the name of this blog ). My wife was able to show forgiveness like God commands us to do in Colossians 3:12 - 14.
Then finally lets look at how Jesus really feels about forgiveness. Take a look at the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant.
Matthew 18:21 - 35
21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[g]
23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold[h] was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins.[i] He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.
29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’
30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.
32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”
OK so are you getting a central theme here for today? In order to move forward, we need to forgive one another, ask God for forgiveness, and leave it in the past. After God has forgiven us, he forgets. Our marriage could not move forward until my wife forgave me for all of the ways that I messed up. But I had to forgive her too and let go of the past. The past was a source of my anger and I was using it as crutch to justify my actions. Satan wants nothing more than to remind us the past and use it as a reason to get angry at your spouse. This is how satan splits up marriages. All we have to tell him is that we are covered by the blood. God has forgiven us and get thee behind me.
My wife and I had some forgiving to do. It was key to our restoration. There is a lot to be said about forgiveness. A weight can be lifted off of our shoulders when we forgive a person who has wronged us. A new free feeling comes with that. I experience this both on the receiving side and the giving side of forgiveness. I am not only speaking about my marriage, but friendships, families, and even co-workers. There is healing power in forgiveness. If there is someone you need to forgive whether in your marriage, friendship, family etc.. I would encourage you to see God for guidance.
Ok so what to pray for. Continued prayer for our kids, our marriage, and a decision that we need to finalize this week.
Father thank you for forgiveness. Thank you for giving your only son to die for our sins. Thank you for defeating death. Thank you Father for showing us those in our path that need forgiveness.