Friday, May 25, 2012

What are the evils....?

I remind myself every day how far I personally have come, and how far this marriage has come in just five short months. I am reminded of the things that my wife and I have done differently this time when faced with the same situations that seemed to cause us grief before. There are evils that every marriage faces head on. Sometimes it is sickness. Sometimes it is family pulling you and your spouse a part. Sometimes it is kids playing both of you parents. Sometimes it is money. Today the subject is money.

1 Timothy 6:10
For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.

After reading the above scripture... is money really the basis of your marriage? Are you convinced that having money is going to make everything else magically better? If your answer is yes.. than you could not be more wrong. Money is not going to make anything better. Your hunger for it, your attitude about it, and a belief that having money will help repair the cracked foundation of your so called marriage is very wrong.  If it is personal attitude of having "things" that you base your happiness on you are going down a very dark road. Sometimes we blame our spouses for not having those things. It creates grief and resentment towards your spouse.

Yes money helps. After all... the bills needs to be paid. There are groceries, gas for the car(s), and other such necessities. If you have kids like we do, than there are some things that you need to make sure that their well being is taken care of. Even now, my wife and I sacrifice for our kids. We happily do it. But.... yes I said BUT....!! There are such things that are more important than maybe getting that new car, or having that new outfit, or things that you want.

This was an issue with my wife and I. We constantly fought, stressed, and worried over money. It created a big wall between us. Some of our money problems were my fault and some of it was hers. Together we created the money monster from hell. Since our attitide was that of blaming, it created hard feelings and resentment. Instead of blaming each other for the monster we created, we should have owned up for our poor decisions and pride that drove us to those decisions. We should have figured out a way to slay the monster. That is what we are doing it now. We now refuse to place importantance on money and base our marriage on it. What is most important is what is happening between us. We used to joke saying... " we may not have money, but we sure got love ".  Up until five months ago that wasn't true. But I can say now the saying is true.

A couple of weeks ago we were asked to prioritize things in our lifes. We started with each of us doing a top ten individually. We then had to narrow it down to five priorities individually, and then out of the five each of us had, we had to decide on five combined. Guess what... money was not one of them. We both looked at each other and said as long as we have each other, everything else will come along. It is true, my wife and I had successfully filtered something out that was so poison to our marriage before. This was absolutely a huge step for us.

To a marriage, money is not everything. As long as God is providing, the extra's will come along in his timing, not you and your spouses. Instead of being mad at each other about what you don't have or that project that won't get done, be thankful for all the blessings that you have, especially in each other. Don't let the money monster blame game drive a wedge in your marriage. Take it from someone who knows.

OK so what to pray for... Pray for my oldest son. Pray for my wife, stress is playing games with her body, pray for my mom and her battle with cancer. Pray for the Lord's will for our lives and jobs.

Thank you Father for showing us your blessings each and every day!! Father help us not to place importantance on things that can be poison to your perfect will intended marriage.