Monday, June 25, 2012

Ohio here we come...

Matthew 14:29-30
29 "Come," he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. 30 But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, "Lord, save me!" 

This is more of an announcement than it is anything else. At the end of July my family and I will be relocating to Ohio to start our new journey. This is something that we have prayed for, you have prayed for, and God has answered prayer. Little did we know a couple of weeks ago that things would move so fast. But sometimes when God calls you to do something, you go and you don't hesitate. In God's timing there is no hesitation allowed. There is simply no time for it hesitation. All the way through this we asked the Lord to shut the door, but he never did. So we continued to walk through the open doors.


Matthew 14:29-30 talks about Peter walking on the water. Peter took his eyes off of the Lord and became scared and started to sink. If you were to take a look at our marriage, we were all but submerged under the crashing waves. Both my wife and I hitting the lowest points at different times. But we cried out and the Lord saved us. Peter also trusted the Lord enough to step out on the water. Well Ohio is our water that we are trusting the Lord to step out on it. So that is what we did. In two short weeks, my wife got a job, we found a house, and all the other little pieces have started to fall into place. 

Folks, the journey continues and the Lord is in charge of this family. Where the Lord leads, we will follow. I have thought many times at ending this blog because I felt like I had nothing left to say. The entries haven't been as often and have gone from every day to every week. But... I don't feel released from this blog and I will continue to write as the Lord lays things about this marriage journey on my heart. I trust that there will be plenty of things to write about as we continue to build this marriage. 


OK so what to pray for... Pray for this move, lots of pieces that need to fall into place. Continue to pray for the Lord's will. Continue to pray for my oldest son, God is SO working in him. Pray for our marriage and the kids as they adjust to our new digs...

Monday, June 18, 2012

Marriage by the numbers.... Thank God we ended up on the good side...

What a week it has been. You may have noticed that I am not writing near as often... well that is with good reason. This journey for the time being has hit a bit of a smooth patch and our hope is that it continues. Mean while my devotions have been amazing as well as my bible readings. The other day I came across this passage

Galatians 5:13-22

Life by the Spirit

13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[b] 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever[c] you want. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

I have to say so far reading through the bible, this is one passage that I think should apply to every marriage. It really says it all and it is a good thing to apply to marriages, our spiritual lives, and our relationship with the Lord. It seems lately that marriage is going by the way side. Divorces, splits, and separations are happening at a startling rate. They are almost as often as when a girlfriend and boyfriend break up. I could say this pattern is happening almost as often as I change my socks. Exaggeration? I think not. Click here for some scary stats!! My theory below continued...

I often ask why have we forgotten to put God at the center of our lives, marriages, and everything we do. Is it really our choice to get divorced? No it is not. It is not God's choice either. Divorce is not God's will for a marriage and it is not his design when it comes to being a family. It's biblical and there are multiple scriptures that support it. I could post them all, but it is just as easy for you to google it if you want. Or you can click here. Bottom line... GOD HATES DIVORCE!! My therapist often told me that when you make that covenant before God and say I do, you cannot break that covenant. Some of you may think.. "well there are exceptions.." and my response to that is yes there are, but that list is very small. Our marriage is a great example of that. Seriously... I mean I had divorce papers in my hands, and God turned it around! So for you spouses out there who think that your marriage is all but over, the above scripture reference is a good start to turning it around. In fact I would encourage you to read the rest of Galatians 5.

So what to pray for... My wife's job has gotten better. Pray for our family as I am going to be staying home a while with our kids. We are seeing answered prayer for my oldest son. Pray for the Lord's will for our lives and his continued guidance.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Answers come in strange ways...

Well I am just now laying my hands on a computer so I can get back to writing this blog. Last week was a very interesting week. Since I am no longer employed, I have had to scramble for a laptop. Funny right? You would think an IT guy like me would have something laying in the wings to use, but I didn't. I was the only one in the house who actually uses a computer on a some what regular basis.

On Thursday June 7th 2012, my employment was terminated. Most people don't like to hear these words while you are sitting in a conference room with your soon to be former boss and HR person. But this was something my wife and I had been praying for. We had asked all of you to pray as well. Well who would have thought that God would have answered our prayers in removing me from that job. I have never really shared much about my job, but... since turning a way from a life of sin and focusing on my marriage and family, my boss was not thrilled. But... I know this is God's will for our lives and we will press on.

I can sit here today and tell you that if ANYONE will allow God to change you and your situation, he will. All we need to be is willing to allow God to work. I am being called into the ministry and as God works out the details, I will be going back to school to pursue a counseling and possibly pastoral studies. My wife and I both know that God is calling us into the ministry. Now it is just waiting on God to do his thing. In the next few weeks, we either expect doors to open or for doors to close. We are trusting God all the way. We have nothing to worry about,  God will provide.

OK so what to pray for... Pray for our marriage to continue to move forward. Pray for our kids as they may have to adjust to some change. Pray for the Lord's will for our life and that he continues to reveal his will to us. 

Monday, June 4, 2012

A week of questions... I got answers...

Yes I haven't blogged in a week. First time since I started this blog that I haven't blogged during the week. Last week I was in one of those busy fogs, to many thoughts, to much going on at home, and to much to get done. I have been praying and praying that God would allow me to hear his still small voice. Yesterday at church that happened. My wife and I have accepted the call into ministry and things will be changing soon with one or both jobs status. I truly said yes yesterday to God's will. I mean I had said yes before, but still had my own idea's to what God wanted. Well let me tell you, that never works out. If you have your own idea's about God's will in front of his idea's, than you are completely wrong.

I came home on Thursday after having a conversation with my boss. I told my wife about it and shared with her this email that I had composed to my boss. In the email I asked to be removed from my current job role and asked to be moved into a more family friendly job role. I really think this current role was something that I wanted so bad, and God gave it to me just to teach me a lesson. On top of the affair, this job was also stealing my focus from God, my wife, and my family.

The last blog I wrote about the evils that can tear a marriage a part. One of those that I did not mention was jobs. Yesterday my pastor talked about how he was a climber. I locked in immediately to what he was saying. I have always thought of myself as a climber in my career. I have always wanted to get to the top. I had career goals, I had salary goals, and I had other goals associated with my job. Pastor said yesterday that we can get so caught up with climbing the latter, that we sometimes climb right over God to get to where we want to go. BAM!!! That hit me like a brick and both my wife and I said "huh..." My wife squeezed my leg. This was something that I had just written in an email to my boss this week. What I had said to my boss in an email was ". I have always considered myself a climber in my career. However, maybe I misjudged this step in accepting/pursuing a position in leadership."  This is the exact sentence that hit me. I knew what God was saying. WRONG position in leadership. My job was just one part of being successful in tearing my marriage apart. I was so busy just dreaming of being the big wig and climbing up that latter, that I got forgot everything that was important to me.

The leadership role that God wants me in, is to be the leader of my family. God also wants me to be a leader in other ways, but those other ways are his ways, not mine. Like I said, Sunday was a huge day for us. God has called me into some type of full time ministry. It could anything in a ministry role. I have idea's and I feel God leading. This time around, I won't try to jump ahead of God, instead I will learn from him as he leads ME to serve him.

Hebrews 13:5-6

5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”[a]
6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?”[b]

The above verse was from my devotions this morning. As I mentioned above, I sent an email to my boss yesterday. I believe this email was what God wanted me to say. This week some more questions will be answered. I know my God will never leave me and I will not be afraid of what is to come. I know God will provide.

OK so what to pray for... Continue to pray for our marriage. God is working and this week we moved a couple of mountains out of the way. Contiue to pray for my oldest son. God is working in him. Pray for the God's will in our life as we take steps of faith that he wants us to take.