Monday, June 18, 2012

Marriage by the numbers.... Thank God we ended up on the good side...

What a week it has been. You may have noticed that I am not writing near as often... well that is with good reason. This journey for the time being has hit a bit of a smooth patch and our hope is that it continues. Mean while my devotions have been amazing as well as my bible readings. The other day I came across this passage

Galatians 5:13-22

Life by the Spirit

13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[b] 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever[c] you want. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

I have to say so far reading through the bible, this is one passage that I think should apply to every marriage. It really says it all and it is a good thing to apply to marriages, our spiritual lives, and our relationship with the Lord. It seems lately that marriage is going by the way side. Divorces, splits, and separations are happening at a startling rate. They are almost as often as when a girlfriend and boyfriend break up. I could say this pattern is happening almost as often as I change my socks. Exaggeration? I think not. Click here for some scary stats!! My theory below continued...

I often ask why have we forgotten to put God at the center of our lives, marriages, and everything we do. Is it really our choice to get divorced? No it is not. It is not God's choice either. Divorce is not God's will for a marriage and it is not his design when it comes to being a family. It's biblical and there are multiple scriptures that support it. I could post them all, but it is just as easy for you to google it if you want. Or you can click here. Bottom line... GOD HATES DIVORCE!! My therapist often told me that when you make that covenant before God and say I do, you cannot break that covenant. Some of you may think.. "well there are exceptions.." and my response to that is yes there are, but that list is very small. Our marriage is a great example of that. Seriously... I mean I had divorce papers in my hands, and God turned it around! So for you spouses out there who think that your marriage is all but over, the above scripture reference is a good start to turning it around. In fact I would encourage you to read the rest of Galatians 5.

So what to pray for... My wife's job has gotten better. Pray for our family as I am going to be staying home a while with our kids. We are seeing answered prayer for my oldest son. Pray for the Lord's will for our lives and his continued guidance.